Henry Ford said it best, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right”. Skills are important, but it is our confidence and belief in our abilities that determine whether we succeed or not. You can train, work hard and have the best horses, but without confidence, the journey to becoming the best rider you can be will always be compromised. So here are 5 ways you can build your confidence from the inside out.
This might seem like an odd one but comparing yourself to others, especially on a show with many other great riders, can make us feel small and insecure. Instead, when we focus on what we do have and what we have already accomplished we start to feel thankful for what is already there. Regularly practicing this positive focus on what we can be grateful for has a profound impact on our self-confidence and overall happiness. After all, if we can’t be happy with what we have already achieved today, we probably won’t feel satisfied achieving other goals either.
2. Power pose
We don’t always wake up with the right mindset. Sometimes we feel tired, unmotivated or insecure. The good news is you can change your state at any time. An effective way to do this is through changing your body posture. Yes, that’s right! Studies have shown that changing our posture has a direct and significant impact on our confidence, how optimistic we feel about results and the willingness to take risks. Just 2 minutes of holding a confident pose will trigger your body to release more Testosterone – a hormone that influences confidence and dominance. Holding this power pose also decreases the stress hormone Cortisol. So next time you feel insecure, bring out your inner Kent Farrington – he always beams confidence, and adopt a power pose for a few minutes – open chest, arms up or away from the body and see what happens!
“You can change your state at any time.”
3. Best round ever
Another easy and powerful tool to quickly increase your self-confidence is to remind yourself of the great rounds you have already ridden. By remembering the feeling (happiness, enjoyment, pride, confidence) when riding your “best round ever” as vividly as possible, you will trigger the same neurons in your brain and the right hormones in your body as when you were riding so brilliantly. In case you have videos of those rounds, watch them as well.
4. Use constructive language
We often use negative language to describe how we feel about our results. “It was so bad” or “my riding was terrible”, for instance. But the language we use, even when just in our thoughts, is crucial when it comes to our self-esteem. Imagine someone telling you all day that you are an awful rider, would it help you to ride better? Talking like this to yourself has the same impact. So make sure you phrase your words in a constructive way.
5. Three step reflection
Lastly, when you exit the arena, make sure you reflect on your performance in a helpful way so that the next time you get on the horse you will feel empowered to do better. Instead of being hard on yourself because of that one mistake you made, start with question #1 what went well? Successful riders are very good at pointing out what went well and they don’t feel ashamed about it. Neither should you! The best way to build up your self-confidence is to remind yourself of all the things you are good at. The second important question in order to improve would be #2 what could have been better? Looking at what went well is important but not enough to help us improve and increase our confidence. Therefore it is helpful to determine what could have been better. Be honest. In case you couldn’t help it or don’t know why the mistake happened, let it go! In case this mistake has happened before and you know it is something you have influence over and can improve upon, then ask yourself the third and most important question #3 how am I going to improve this? Make a clear plan and think of exercises you can do at home to work on this specific skill.
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